In a few days it will be my birthday.
As much as I hate to admit, I am “that person”. We all know someone that is hard to find a present for, I am one of them.
Normally I like to get practical items as gifts, crazy I know. But if I receive a vacuum, mixer, or bath towels as a gift then I can buy myself something that I want.
Two years ago,
On my 45th birthday, I got sick and I spent my birthday in bed. In fact, I spent the next 7 months in bed.
Last year, my 46th birthday, we had a party. We invited all of our closest friends. As sick as I had been the previous year we were afraid I wouldn’t have a 46th birthday, I wanted to celebrate life.
As you can see from the photos above, we had a great time.
I want something far less practical. You could say it is the most frivolous thing ever. Silly. Foolish.
I want a mulligan.
I am not a golfer. In fact, the few times that I participated in the sport, I ended up in the emergency room.
Regardless, a mulligan is at the top of my birthday gift list this year.
mul·li·gan noun \ˈmə-li-gən\
“In golf, a mulligan is a stroke that is replayed from the spot of the previous stroke without penalty, due to an errant shot made on the previous stroke. The result is, as the hole is played and scored, as if the first errant shot had never been made.”
In other words, I want a “do over”. More than anything.
I have been mulling this over today, as if it were truly a real possibility.
So, let’s play a little game of “what if”.
If you could have a mulligan, a “do over” if you will, what would you choose?
Which birthday would you return to, if you could?
Would you choose your 18th? 21st?
Do you want to return to your youth? Years before all the responsibilities of adulthood replaced your wild spontaneity?
I would love to go back to my 40th.
Not that long ago. Just 7 years in the past.
I don’t really want to be younger. I am not wanting to wish away responsibilities or wrinkles.
Looking back, to my 40th year I now realize that we lived in a “sweet spot”.
Bruce and I had been married for 8 years, we made it past the 7 year itch, and we were happy, really happy.
We had purchased a home the year before, and we loved it. Our neighbors were great, we got together often. Kids were everywhere, running from one house into another. Bonfires, cookouts, drinks on the patio. It was perfect.
This was the year that we found Rosie, our boxer baby. She brought so much joy into our lives. Now, I miss her so much, I would love to have her in our lives again.
Between the kids, Bruce and Rosie our home was filled with love and laughter.
I also had a job that I loved. Hartley’s was not only my place of employment, it was like home. Every single day I got to go to work, hang out, eat great food, see friends, make new ones, enjoy a cocktail, laugh and laugh some more.
It was the first time in my life that I truly felt like I fit.
Hartley’s was the place where “everyone knew your name”, and if they did not know you when you came in-they definitely knew you before you left. And, most likely, plans had been made to meet up again on your next visit.
When I worked at Hartley’s my name changed, I was no longer Nikki Frank-Hamilton, I was Nikki From Hartley’s, same initials though! It was meant to be. No matter where Bruce and I would go from Myrtle Beach, South Carolina to just around the corner…everyone knew Nikki From Hartley’s.
I am sure that we had something or other happen that year, but I can’t remember any really bad or stressful times.
This would be my mulligan and although I know that it not possible, I want to believe what T.S. Eliot said, so this year as I blow out my birthday candles, with just one breath…I will be wishing for a mulligan.
“Sometimes things become possible if we want them bad enough.”
So, on Sunday if you find yourself sitting at a quaint little bar, martini in hand, sit back, let me tell you a joke or two. I will introduce you to all the regulars and serve you some incredible food. I promise that we will show you a good time. And if we are incredibly lucky, a la the movie “Groundhog Day”, I will see you again the next day!
Looking forward to it!